The Gifts of an Abused Child

One page is not big enough, nor the days long enough to describe the horrors in the life of an abused or neglected (same thing) child. This life is often reflected through the actions expressed during outbursts by these children.

Parents seem to mistake the age before a child can articulate the hurt or lack of love, as a period in which the child’s feelings do not matter. Perhaps, too young to understand! When in fact, children at this early age are still the closest to their creator as they will ever be. Fresh from the womb.

Age, family, school, and interactions with others will eventually dim the memory of their birth, as they acclimate to their surroundings. Society perpetuates this loss of intuition as children are channeled into the current ideology. What little intuition may be left over is often written off as a fluke, cute, or coming from out of nowhere.

Is it really child-care when foster parents strap a three-year-old into a saddle on the back of a pony, after breakfast? Then swatting the pony on the rump sending both galloping into the pasture: After which the gate is closed and locked until noon, or later? Sure, the couple know the pony will eventually make it back to the barn, no problem. What message is this sending to the child? They do not matter!

How then, does one explain this same child taught herself to play the piano during the age of four/five? We just established the child is too young to understand or be traumatized by a lock-up in the pasture for hours. What are we overlooking? It cannot be both ways.

Most foster children are moved to more than one family while growing up, thus never making roots. At 17 they are aged-out without the tools to take care of themselves. Jails are full of these youngsters who lean towards a life of crime to survive.

Now, why would anyone consider the life of an abused child a Gift? Inside of every abused child is the knowledge they have an inner voice looking out for them. Not that they can consistently support this concept because what they see and feel on the outside often blurs the voice they hear on the inside.

It takes love and patience to convince these children/adults the voice within is their connection to their spiritual self, which they never lost. Most abused or foster children already understand this. What they need is affection and guidance until they can reclaim it as their own.

Those with busy lives conditioned to working, earning, commuting (?) and following the rules are often too stressed to listen to the Voice within. It is more difficult to reopen the internal voice of professional and successful adults than to remind an abused child they never lost their gift.