One thing has always surprised me about bullies:
No matter how mean and tough they act, bullies always get upset when people stand up to them.
Corlett Novis:
If your child seems depressed in school — he/she is tagged with some affliction and given Ritalin, or worse. If he /she is diagnosed as attention-deficit (ADHD) he/she will be medicated with Vyvanse or worse.
However, if your child is a ‘God forbid’ Bully he will be sent home, isolated and sent home, or referred to a psychiatrist, labeling him as different! This is good for the professional since this is a long-term guaranteed treatment.
How is it we can send a man to the moon, yet no one has come up with how to treat the bully mentality?
Jails and prisons are full of bullies who murder, steal, shoot, and, deal in drugs … the cure — Lock ’em up! If you want to see a grown man cry — ask any guy who is locked up to explain his relationship with his mother.
The importance of a Mother’s love from birth cannot be overstated. Yet, during this critical connection time new parents tend to think an infant is too young to notice if they let the baby cry a little. Thinking, if they are fed and diapered then a little crying exercise is not harmful.
You may witness a small child throwing a tantrum in the market and hurry past hoping the mother will give the child a swat and go on with her shopping. In reality, this is an early stage bully, crying for the love they feel is missing. This is their way of articulating the loss of love and misinterpreted as a spoiled child.
This is not the kind of affliction that can be articulated by either the child nor the parents. Most parents were never taught the importance of this early stage in child development. Children are not sophisticated enough to report the reason they bully, or cure themselves on the off-chance they know the reason.
Adults who bully may have an idea as to the reason, yet will never seek help and tell the professional, I missed out on my mommies love. It just will not happen.
When you look at Donald Trumps childhood you will see he had a successful, yet demanding, and strict father — with little reference to his mother. This is the perfect atmosphere for developing the Bully demeanor.
When President Trump changed over the negative reception it is the predictable reaction of a bully who feels the pain of another rejection. Or, as they say in the vernacular — His cry for Love.
Thus, the way to cure an adult bully, is to accept him for what he appears to be and watch him grow into who he was meant to be.